Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Top Five Regrets of The Dying
For a long time, it's felt as if we've been living in reaction to everything. There's been very little pro action. Choice. Pro active choice. Where did that go? Did I ever really practice that? Perhaps it's time.
To choose the direction in which we desire our life to travel.
To set our priorities and goals for our family and make our choices accordingly.
To remember that this time here is finite. It will end. And when we look back, will it be with a satisfied nod, holding the hand of someone we love?
I set that intention.
And now it's time to wake the kids.
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
"Ally, get off me!"
"Mooooom, she hit me!"
Ally, sniffling: "Awwwi hit me."
"Stop! Awwwiiiiii! Me say NO!"
Now I know why my parents blew their collective stack in the car with all three of us sniping at each other in the back seat. I am at a total loss of how to deal. So far, this is how I have handled it (in chronological order):
A child under each arm, "Ally, look at Ari's face after you hit him. How does he look? Sad? Ari, how do you feel? When we hit, we hurt, Ally." ...just waiting for her to say Good in response but instead she usually says, "I shaawwy Awwwii, I shaawwy" quickly followed by a too-hard squeeze of some appendage.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
One guess as to what this is.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Monday, April 25, 2011
Friday, February 18, 2011
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Since this letter is kind of late anyway, I’ll just get right to it :).
This year we celebrated the beginning of Ally’s second year of life and a whole new set of “firsts”. Her first word was “uh oh”. Her first steps had us hanging until she was 16 months of age, at which time she began her specialized head long plunge through life. A tough chick, she’ll cry for 7 seconds over a major facial injury but maintain a 30 minute tantrum over not being able to go outside. Her screams make people shake their heads and bring Ari to tears. She’s commenced the “Me Too!” phase of life and will follow her darling Ari up anything climbable, over any obstacle and into any depth of water. But her kisses and hugs don’t stop and “Daddy” (and “no”) is quickly becoming her favorite word. This is just a small taste of the force that is Ally.
Our Ari turned four this year…though he’s counting the years until he is “17 and can play football with his friends.” I smile at the personal freedom (for me) that dream entails and cringe at what I know he can do with the age of 17. The Ar-man is sort of digging his second year of preschool but frequently reports that it is “boring” and he’d rather stay home with me. I’m not sure what he thinks Ally and I do while he’s gone but “exciting” is not how I’d describe it. Despite the above, he’s learning SO much there, loves his teachers and has begun some good friendships. Other new loves include soccer, Nerf dart guns and dragons…but the unconditional adoration of his little sister hasn’t moved him.
Sascha’s been working his tuckus off this year and had some of his research accepted to present at a professional conference. I strive to get through the weeks with minimal loss of temper and maximum application of love and direction and have finally chosen to embrace my stay-at-home status as a blessing (which is notable for me J).
Two family notes this year…Happily, my brother Andy and his partner Melissa finally got hitched in a beautiful, rain-drenched ceremony this September. We love having Melissa as an official sister and look forward to the razzing that entails. And sadly, our family said goodbye to our Grandpa Schwarz as he took his journey Home this winter. Ari and I travelled together to Iowa to celebrate his life and while it was very hard to say my last goodbyes to a man I adored, it was also good for my soul to be around my extended family again and to hug my Grandma and Grandma Emma Jean. I know we are so very lucky to be a part of this family.
In conclusion, we’d like to share a few things we’ve learned throughout 2010.
1) We like each other a lot more when we’re out of the house.
2) When something isn’t working to your satisfaction, you keep trying.
3) If you don’t know how to do something, find a way to learn it.
4) If Mom is run ragged and doesn’t get a break, nobody in the family will be happy. Ever.
5) Family is everything.